Hey friends, Kara here.
Let's dive into a topic that might seem sunny on the surface but can cast some serious shadows: toxic positivity.
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Toxic positivity is the belief that no matter how difficult a situation is, people should maintain a positive mindset. It's the idea that we should always look on the bright side and avoid expressing negative emotions.
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While having a positive outlook can be beneficial, toxic positivity takes it to an extreme. It can invalidate people's genuine feelings and make them feel like their struggles are unimportant. It can also pressure people to suppress their emotions, which can lead to increased stress and anxiety.
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So, how does toxic positivity differ from being generally positive? Here are some signs to look out for:
But why do so many people fall victim to toxic positivity?
First, it's often well-intentioned, coming from a desire to help others feel better. Second, our society often places a high value on happiness and positivity, which can pressure people to maintain a cheerful facade even when they're struggling.
And finally, if we may subconsciously want to minimize someone else's struggles if we feel like we can't or don't want to help them. The psychologist Dr. Susan David describes this mindset simply: "my comfort is more important than your reality."
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So now that we know what toxic positivity really is, how can we avoid slipping into it ourselves? Here are some suggestions:
Remember, it's okay to not be okay sometimes. By avoiding toxic positivity and embracing a range of emotions, we can create a more supportive and understanding environment for ourselves and others.
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Thanks for watching, and remember, your feelings are valid.
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